While divorce is stressful, the years of marriage leading up to a divorce can be just as stressful. When a couple operates from a default state of conflict, tension, or even codependent tendencies, their physical health suffers. This is because consistent stress within a relationship – even subtle inner resistance or resentment – triggers the release of the stress hormone cortisol in the body. Elevated cortisol levels cause a ‘fight or flight’ response in the body, and even small stressors cause big harm. While our mental and circumstantial lives as humans have evolved profoundly over the past hundreds of thousands of years, our bodies still live in the Stone Age in many ways.
Our bodies react to arguments, disagreement, and subtle tension the same way they used to respond to being chased by a bear: by pumping us full of cortisol and getting our blood pumping to signal that it’s time to fight (physically!) or flee (run!). Years of compounded stressors and a low-key fight or flight response that is constantly engaged can lead to heart disease, digestive disorder, and other illnesses, as well as rob our overall sense of vitality. Getting a divorce can resolve many of the stressors that keep our nervous systems in fight or flight stress response. This induces its opposite, a nervous system state called “rest and digest.” In this state of calm, our bodies and minds function at full capacity. And as if not being constantly under stress isn’t enough, divorce also provides individuals with an opportunity to prioritize self-care and personal well-being in ways that were often not available within a marriage due to shared responsibilities and the lifestyle embraced by the married ‘unit.’ Unhappy in your marriage? Seriously consider obtaining a legal dissolution in New Jersey. Your body will thank you.
One’s emotional health can also be positively impacted in divorce. Incompatible marriages are often accompanied by the unhealthy and unkind practices of putting one another down, diminishing one another’s worth, and seeding self-doubt. Once divorced, an individual can listen in to the part of themselves that has not felt properly loved, seen, or cared for. Marriages often exploit deep-seeded feelings of abandonment and lack of self-love. These destructive complexes are difficult to heal within a marriage, and some relationships are even based on these longstanding wounds. In many cases, becoming emotionally healthy and getting to know — and taking care of — the needs of your inner child is easier when alone and free from relationships that amplify wounding.
What do you really want for yourself, personally and professionally? Many people lose sight of their individual passions and goals when in a marriage because the identity of the couple as a ‘unit’ overshadows each spouse’s individuality. Divorce can provide the energetic space that fosters mental clarity. With mental clarity comes renewed ambition and clear steps towards reaching personal and professional goals.
Our team of divorce lawyers at Bronzino Law Firm is uniquely poised to use our experience and know-how to help you swiftly and successfully navigate a divorce so that you receive, in full, the assets that are rightfully yours. New Jersey’s equitable distribution process ensures that marital assets are distributed evenly based on various factors, and a divorce attorney at our firm will help you take full advantage of those conditions so that you move into your future with all you need to restore your physical, emotional, and mental health, and blossom into your full potential. For over a decade, our firm has been an established part of the Red Bank, Belmar, Lavallette, Seaside Heights, Sea Girt, Point Pleasant, Holmdel, Beach Haven, Bradley Beach, and other Ocean and Monmouth County communities, and is dedicated to successfully supporting our clients through divorce procedures and transitions. Contact us today at (732) 812-3102 for a free and confidential consultation regarding your divorce.
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